Many people are not willing to be really honest with themselves when it comes to relationships. For example, asking yourself why are you in a relationship and what are you looking for? Why do you want to be in a relationship? Are you doing this for yourself or are you doing this just so that you can have a “relationship status and make sure people think that you are not lonely? I know too many people who are in a relationship and they are very lonely and unhappy within. I really do believe that sometimes some people are better off alone. Being in a relationship with the wrong person can be a prison sentence. If you are in a relationship, do you really fit and make each other happy? Or are you in a relationship because you are afraid you will not be able to find someone else or because you are afraid that you will grow old alone? Or are you scared of being rejected or being the one who has to reject? Someone wise told me once that we should see rejection as redirection. Sometimes redirection is exactly what we need even though we don’t always want to know or admit to it.
Only you and you alone can answer the questions. You as a person have a great responsibility to choose the right partner for your life. Yes, you get to choose. What you want and what you really need are two different things. So be honest with yourself about what you really need in your life instead of what you want. If you don’t know what you need, spend more time working on yourself. Get to know yourself and force yourself to keep on growing and improving yourself. Fix the things you can and leave the rest to God. be open to meet up with people and get to know people and meet new people regularly so that you can get a sense of what you like or dislike in a partner.
You have a calling on your life and your life partner must be able to respect it and fit in with it, and vice versa. You must be able to help one another to be the people God has called you to be. If your partner cannot understand it and help you to be that person and with it, unconditionally love you, then I suggest you be honest with yourself and your partner about where you are going. Don’t waste each other’s time. Rather call it off if you know you are not right for each other.
It’s not just about getting married and having kids. Everything is not just about you either. You have a responsibility to respect and live the calling on your life. The rest comes from the right time and place.
So, why are you in a relationship and where are you going? Why should you be in a relationship?